Hello! I'm sure you've all heard the phrase "Fake it 'till you make it" in relation to being confident in yourself, right? Today I want to talk about what to do when you 'make it' and why self love never has been and never will be a bad thing.
'Self love' has been quite a popular buzz word in the last year, with countless articles online teaching you how to love yourself more, and I think it's fantastic! I touched briefly on this topic in a previous post I've written, 'Why It's Important To Be Alone'. Growing up, I've always been a very confident person but most of that was me 'faking it 'till I made it', and underneath the false confident shell, I was just a typical teenage girl who picked out the tiniest flaw in myself and obsessed over it.
"You owe yourself the love you give so freely to other people."
Over the last year or so, that has slowly changed and I've grown to accept myself as I am, and in doing that, I now appreciate myself a lot more. I no longer care what I look like without make-up, or if my hair is sitting perfectly or not, which is a very liberating. Now I'm not saying that if you wear make-up all the time that you don't love yourself, each to their own and all that, but for me, being comfortable in my own skin was something I had to really work for.
"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers."
Self love isn't all about what's on the surface. Loving who you are on the inside and liking the type of person you are is probably harder than not caring about wearing make-up. Again, I think this has to do with age, and as you grow up and become more of an 'adult', you learn more about yourself and who you really are. You might discover things about yourself that you don't particularly like, and then it's your job to work through that and improve yourself as a person.
"Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place."
I think the most positive part of self love is that it will improve your relationships with others too. When you love yourself and don't need anything from anyone else, be it happiness or acceptance, you will find yourself only seeking people out and wanting them to be a part of your life because you genuinely like them, not because of what they can give you.
"Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have."
As for how exactly you can go about loving yourself more? My main tip would be to spend time by yourself, like I mentioned in 'Why It's Important To Be Alone'. Once you spend time alone, getting to know all about yourself, you can begin to accept all the little quirks and with acceptance comes love. Pretty cliché right, but trust me, it works and you'll be a much happier person for it!
I hope you enjoyed this post, thanks so much for reading!
